Well we're finally getting settled in to the apartment. It's so strange living with a man. I don't have to change my habits really, which is nice. He's a very accepting person. The hardest part I think is getting used to the fact that that person is always there. And I mean always. Sharing an apartment is one thing but sharing a life is a whole other can of worms. There's just so many possibilities. What if you don't like the way he does something? What if he doesn't like the way you do something? Will you fight more? What will happen to the romance? What if you get bored of each other?
I think you got through all of those. Everyday.
It's not about what the problem is. It's about what your willing to do about it. Will you over look it? Will you let it go? Will you talk about it? Are you willing to compromise? Can you be understanding? Can he? Once you can figure out just how willing you both are to accept the fact that it is no longer only about the one person you've know and taken care of your entire life, that you'll have to make mental and emotional room for that other person, that's the key.
There is a fine line however in making "room" for someone and giving them everything. Because even tho he might be the person you think of the most, you need to find a way to remind yourself of how valuable you are. It's important no to rely on that other person to give you the recognition you deserve. Make time for yourself. Without him. Go do something that makes you happy. Maybe its going to the book store, or to the bar with your friends, or maybe going to that yoga class you always wanted to join.
At the end of the day, if you wont make time for you, who will?
Sometimes you just have to sit back and take it as it comes. If it's a bad day, let it be a bad day. If it's a good day, enjoy it. Life is a never ending journey of growth not only a person, but as someone who's part of something much bigger.
-Tasha xo
